on being 27, I realize that nothing has changed. I don't feel older! yay!
I turned 28 on Saturday.
I hope to make this year a great year... 5 changes I plan to make this year
1. Work out and lose weight (of course, that is always a change I plan)
2. Spend more time going out and being young while I can
3. Stop taking myself so seriously - spend that extra 50 bucks on that dress I want
4. Read more books
5. Start cooking again
AND.. I'm IN my new townhouse!!! It's definitely in the ghetto, but it is a beautiful ghetto. I love it and I love being home!
Monday, May 18, 2009
Friday, May 8, 2009
An Ongoing Issue of Mine
Can Married and Single People Be Friends?
The one thing I noticed about being single and over thirty is that not only has my love life reached a slump, my social life overall appears to be in need of an overhaul. It seems that as every week goes by I'm growing further apart from my friends. Is it because I've become completely socially incompetent? At times--I do wonder. However, lately I'm beginning to wonder more if it's just because every one I know is married.
No one ever wants to be the last single friend. By the time you're thirty it gives you nightmarish visions of being invited over to dinner parties to be fixed up with the "divorced guy from work." My friends' "married phase" began when I was in my late twenties. It recently concluded with an engagement just after Christmas. I never wanted to believe that this should change my friendship with anyone. I do have to admit that it was difficult to find myself heading down the cliché road of "always a bridesmaid, never a bride."
When I started to complain about their changing lives I'll never forget what one person said to me as comfort.
"You think that's bad…wait until they get to the baby phase."
Well, several years later--the baby phase has arrived! It doesn't bother me that they can't go out anymore. Frankly, what would we do anyway? I'm really tired of the bar scene and I get to see enough movies when I go on dates. I'm actually pretty content going over to their homes and playing with their children. I only have one niece in my family and the opportunity to be "Auntie Barbara" to my friend's children is somewhat thrilling. For the last few years like a trooper I've heard about mucus plugs, breast feeding and developmental disorders. These are all subjects that I can't identify with --AT ALL--but I immerse myself with tremendous interest in all these conversations.
It all seemed nice in theory. Even though our lives were different, our friendship didn't have to change. However, as more and more time went by I realized that something was missing with all the "married people" in my life. Sure, I could live in their world and talk about things that were now of interest to them. Yet, somehow they couldn't identify with my world anymore. You would think in theory that someone happily married would want their single friend to find true love too. Do they even ask? If it isn't something that would appear in a current issue of "Today's Baby" or merit a trip to Home Depot, they apparently weren't interested at all.
Now does this make any sense? I've never been married…never had children…yet I find a way to take an interest and mix in their world. They on the other hand used to be single. You would think it would be easier for them to keep up with me! I'm beginning to believe that once you find your perfect mate, you refuse to remember the single part of your life.
To make matters worse, all of my married friends seem to predetermine that I can't be happy spending time with them. Even the ones who don't have children like to apologize for "being too boring." I don't really understand what they think I'm looking for at this point in my life. Somehow, watching a DVD in their living room isn't good enough for me! Don't they understand that I'm just happy being with my friends? At the same time it makes me feel as though they aren't happy spending time with me.
When you're single and the weekend arrives, your natural inclination is to want to spend time with your friends. However, if all your friends are married it seems that you're always going to be the one doing the inviting. I guess I can't blame my married friends for being this way. When your home comes with a built-in companion you don't exactly sit around on a Saturday night saying, "Hey honey, why don't we invite Barbara over."
This is why I've been forced into the position of inviting myself over. When it looks like a solid weekend of sitting home alone, I spin the married friend wheel and decide who I'm going to go visit. This can turn into a really interesting adventure since many of my friends live out of state.
I truly do want to see my friends. They've always been a priority in my life. I'd much rather spend time with them then even go on dates. However dating lately has become a necessary substitute for a lack of friend time.
It's difficult inviting yourself over to someone's house. They all say, "You know you have an open invitation to come over" but it would still be nicer to be asked. Especially when nine out of the ten times that I do ask they say, "well we're not doing much--if that's ok with you." Gee, could the invitation be any warmer or fuzzier?
There's no grand conclusion to the problem of having too many married friends. On the upside it has forced me to be more comfortable spending time alone. I've also gained the confidence to do more things on my own like going to a movie (matinées only!) or sitting at a bar to have a drink. If there was a match.com site for making single friends I would most certainly join in a heartbeat! However, the older you get--the harder it is to find single friends. I make friends easily but all my new ones are also married!
The one thing I noticed about being single and over thirty is that not only has my love life reached a slump, my social life overall appears to be in need of an overhaul. It seems that as every week goes by I'm growing further apart from my friends. Is it because I've become completely socially incompetent? At times--I do wonder. However, lately I'm beginning to wonder more if it's just because every one I know is married.
No one ever wants to be the last single friend. By the time you're thirty it gives you nightmarish visions of being invited over to dinner parties to be fixed up with the "divorced guy from work." My friends' "married phase" began when I was in my late twenties. It recently concluded with an engagement just after Christmas. I never wanted to believe that this should change my friendship with anyone. I do have to admit that it was difficult to find myself heading down the cliché road of "always a bridesmaid, never a bride."
When I started to complain about their changing lives I'll never forget what one person said to me as comfort.
"You think that's bad…wait until they get to the baby phase."
Well, several years later--the baby phase has arrived! It doesn't bother me that they can't go out anymore. Frankly, what would we do anyway? I'm really tired of the bar scene and I get to see enough movies when I go on dates. I'm actually pretty content going over to their homes and playing with their children. I only have one niece in my family and the opportunity to be "Auntie Barbara" to my friend's children is somewhat thrilling. For the last few years like a trooper I've heard about mucus plugs, breast feeding and developmental disorders. These are all subjects that I can't identify with --AT ALL--but I immerse myself with tremendous interest in all these conversations.
It all seemed nice in theory. Even though our lives were different, our friendship didn't have to change. However, as more and more time went by I realized that something was missing with all the "married people" in my life. Sure, I could live in their world and talk about things that were now of interest to them. Yet, somehow they couldn't identify with my world anymore. You would think in theory that someone happily married would want their single friend to find true love too. Do they even ask? If it isn't something that would appear in a current issue of "Today's Baby" or merit a trip to Home Depot, they apparently weren't interested at all.
Now does this make any sense? I've never been married…never had children…yet I find a way to take an interest and mix in their world. They on the other hand used to be single. You would think it would be easier for them to keep up with me! I'm beginning to believe that once you find your perfect mate, you refuse to remember the single part of your life.
To make matters worse, all of my married friends seem to predetermine that I can't be happy spending time with them. Even the ones who don't have children like to apologize for "being too boring." I don't really understand what they think I'm looking for at this point in my life. Somehow, watching a DVD in their living room isn't good enough for me! Don't they understand that I'm just happy being with my friends? At the same time it makes me feel as though they aren't happy spending time with me.
When you're single and the weekend arrives, your natural inclination is to want to spend time with your friends. However, if all your friends are married it seems that you're always going to be the one doing the inviting. I guess I can't blame my married friends for being this way. When your home comes with a built-in companion you don't exactly sit around on a Saturday night saying, "Hey honey, why don't we invite Barbara over."
This is why I've been forced into the position of inviting myself over. When it looks like a solid weekend of sitting home alone, I spin the married friend wheel and decide who I'm going to go visit. This can turn into a really interesting adventure since many of my friends live out of state.
I truly do want to see my friends. They've always been a priority in my life. I'd much rather spend time with them then even go on dates. However dating lately has become a necessary substitute for a lack of friend time.
It's difficult inviting yourself over to someone's house. They all say, "You know you have an open invitation to come over" but it would still be nicer to be asked. Especially when nine out of the ten times that I do ask they say, "well we're not doing much--if that's ok with you." Gee, could the invitation be any warmer or fuzzier?
There's no grand conclusion to the problem of having too many married friends. On the upside it has forced me to be more comfortable spending time alone. I've also gained the confidence to do more things on my own like going to a movie (matinées only!) or sitting at a bar to have a drink. If there was a match.com site for making single friends I would most certainly join in a heartbeat! However, the older you get--the harder it is to find single friends. I make friends easily but all my new ones are also married!
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Maternity dress for a non-preggo?
http://www.motherhood.com/maternity/dresses.asp
check out that website and you'll see why i'm asking this question.
Is it completely wrong to wear a maternity dress if you aren't pregnant?
There is a girl at my work who is about 5 months pregnant. I absolutely love her dresses!
I mean, if I cut the tag out, who would know it's a maternity dress, right?
Is that wrong?
check out that website and you'll see why i'm asking this question.
Is it completely wrong to wear a maternity dress if you aren't pregnant?
There is a girl at my work who is about 5 months pregnant. I absolutely love her dresses!
I mean, if I cut the tag out, who would know it's a maternity dress, right?
Is that wrong?
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
We are Moving!
This weekend. Short notice, definitely! We were offered the option of 2 townhouses - 1 is available immediately and another is not available until July.
We took the one that is available now.
2 full master bedrooms (so my sister can't bitch about her room, her closet OR her bathroom). A huge living room and a bigger kitchen than I have now. A great patio section for a grill (that I couldn't have at the apartment) and a nice community backyard for Charles walks! I'm so excited.
Now, to actually get moved. The moving situation isn't really going so well for me. I've already felt a little disappointed by the amount of help offered. Which hey, I guess I can't ask my friends to do something last minute.. but this is what I was offered and I have to play with what I was dealt.
I'm not moving next weekend because it is my birthday and I have my bff from WV coming to visit me. She is taking a plane (and yes, she is in WV).. the plane trip takes 4 hours and she will be coming in Thursday (14th) night. I am not spending that weekend moving, so I'm just going to do it myself. I'm renting a truck and saying "hasta la vista" to the old and in with the new.
I hate my apartment. It reminds me of every dark depressed moment I had. The past 2 years were probably the hardest years of my life. I can't wait to shake it loose and move on.
I can't help to say though, I feel completely disappointed that I'll be doing it alone.
We took the one that is available now.
2 full master bedrooms (so my sister can't bitch about her room, her closet OR her bathroom). A huge living room and a bigger kitchen than I have now. A great patio section for a grill (that I couldn't have at the apartment) and a nice community backyard for Charles walks! I'm so excited.
Now, to actually get moved. The moving situation isn't really going so well for me. I've already felt a little disappointed by the amount of help offered. Which hey, I guess I can't ask my friends to do something last minute.. but this is what I was offered and I have to play with what I was dealt.
I'm not moving next weekend because it is my birthday and I have my bff from WV coming to visit me. She is taking a plane (and yes, she is in WV).. the plane trip takes 4 hours and she will be coming in Thursday (14th) night. I am not spending that weekend moving, so I'm just going to do it myself. I'm renting a truck and saying "hasta la vista" to the old and in with the new.
I hate my apartment. It reminds me of every dark depressed moment I had. The past 2 years were probably the hardest years of my life. I can't wait to shake it loose and move on.
I can't help to say though, I feel completely disappointed that I'll be doing it alone.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Creepy Cat
Last night I took Charlie out for his walk to poo.
Upon us walks a cute little cat. Charlie gets hyper, cat gets closer. Charlie and I start to casually walk away. Cat comes at us even faster. Charlie and I start to jog.. as I'm shewing the cat away with the end of Charlie's leash. Cat starts jogging as well (at us). Charlie and I start running and cat starts running.
I finally picked up Charlie and got the hell out of dodge.
Why would a cute cat do that? I think he was out for Charlie's blood!
It's so hilarious though.. I wish I could have seen us. Charlie was really scared!
Upon us walks a cute little cat. Charlie gets hyper, cat gets closer. Charlie and I start to casually walk away. Cat comes at us even faster. Charlie and I start to jog.. as I'm shewing the cat away with the end of Charlie's leash. Cat starts jogging as well (at us). Charlie and I start running and cat starts running.
I finally picked up Charlie and got the hell out of dodge.
Why would a cute cat do that? I think he was out for Charlie's blood!
It's so hilarious though.. I wish I could have seen us. Charlie was really scared!
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